….sometimes, when someone dumps me or is rude etc., I flirt with responding with an insult, or a “you’re not even that cute!!!!” Nonsense like that.

But then I don’t do it, because I am not a child.

There are a lot of children out there, apparently.

Why are they still giving toddler girls babies as toys? As if women must learn to clean up poop while they can barely read a book because they need to get started on their child-rearin’ early.

Most people will be parents and will need to learn this stuff. But not as a child, and definitely not only girls.

So someone just accused me of being gay because I “lack gusto.”

Let me explain.

I was in the deli downstairs walking up to the fridge to get a sixpack. A dude (whom I have seen before, but it’s not like we know each other) was getting a single beer, and, seeing him moving away from the beer, I just walked up behind him as he left. Apparently he thought I got too close, and he said, “Hey man you gotta say excuse me.”

Had it ended there, it’s a weirdly oversensitive dude. But then..

“I respect what you guys do but you can’t just be up on someone like that.”

I should have said, “Not that there’s anything wrong with that,” but I was trying to figure out what the hell he was talking about. And then I was like, oh, he thinks I’m gay.

This is not the first or last time for this. I fit a handful of stereotypes I guess. Whatever.

But I did say, “Oh, dude, I’m not gay. I’m sorry I didn’t say excuse me sooner.”

“You’re not?” he said. “Well you’re kind of effeminate there. You definitely lack gusto.”

Gusto. This is a thing people say at all, let alone to be paranoid and homophobic? Weird.

And of course, the whole assumption is offensive - not to me, I don’t care, but to gay folks, who he of course assumes are weak.

I do have a high voice, but I was in a hoodie and jeans. I figure I look like most young people, but it seems that in certain parts of the culture, rooting out the not-manly is a professional sport.

It’s sad. But at least, in his weird paranoia, he started with “I respect what you all do.” That’s better than I would have hoped.

DSK sues his accuser. The cojones on this bastard
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Why are there SO MANY MOVIES where there is at least one or two male characters who absolutely hate their wives/gfs, feel like they’re emasculated, etc etc?

Not only is this nasty to women, but it’s horrible for men, too, because it makes us look like we can’t be happy in relationships.

Stop it, mostly male writers!