We’re all a little dumber when we’re impaired by various substances. We have loose lips, or we sleep around, or we actually hurt people. Not an excuse, but a reason.
Some people like to wave away some kinds of sexual assault because the assailant was impaired, as if this gives someone a free pass.
I’ve done dumb stuff (not that kind of stuff; mostly saying mean shit) after drinks. And I deserve the shame and scorn it has brought upon me.
If you think you might do something shitty, either don’t take that drink, or stay home. And if you’re prone to repulsive behavior when you do a particular thing, either stop yourself, or remove the cause of it. Ideally, investigate the cause and root out the bad behavior, but the easy way is not to take that drink etc.
I doubt I’ll ever become completely free of saying not-that-kind things on a night out. But there’s no anger left in them, and we’re a long way from how things once were.
The point I’m making here on this random post is simple: the responsibility is always with the transgressors. For small things and for big ones too.
“The more research we do, the more it seems like the only behavior consistently considered normal is the tendency to be way too strict about what normal behavior actually is — and then being really shitty to the people who don’t conform. So next time you hear someone criticized for not being “manly” or “feminine” enough, remember that, for the most part, the only things keeping it from being 180 degrees different are the numbers on the calendar.”—Cracked
With all that’s been said, it’s good we have a bit more equality in entertainment about spoiled man-children and spoiled women-children but…. why for we can’t have something about young folks who are not layabouts? This isn’t a smack at the good entertainment that’s out there. Hell, Louie, on Louie, is pretty pathetic, and I wouldn’t change that. But I’d love to find, on TV or in the movies, a young dude/lady/etc (maybe of color? maybe one day) who has a plan and is going after it. Trust me, you can put compelling obstacles in their way aside from immaturity. But I guess I’ve never been a huge fan of coming-of-age stuff where the characters were older than Scout Finch.
You see I’m 25. I have been very lucky in life and I know it. I can relate to certain types of feelings and relationships, and I can see myself in certain things. But they have yet to make someone like me who isn’t an awful, cold-hearted human being. Someone who cares deeply about his friends and his students and works hard.
I have plenty of flaws. But you’d probably have to make it high-concept to make it interesting to a studio or network.
Which is fine.
Let’s think of some.
A mature young adult of color gets… body-switched with an elderly white lady!
A mature young adult of color gets…. transported to a world where no one is mature! Wait, that’s just “Idiocracy” isn’t it? Damn.
Gays are now a violent, terrorizing sect of people. Miss California was threatened because of an opinion. Gays sodomize on our public beaches and streets. They ransack churches. Blaspheme religion and had public sex on Folsom Street They caused many to lose their jobs in Cailfornia because they voted their conscience on Prop 8.. Gays generate and transmit the HIV/AIDS pandemic threatening everyones life.
In essence Gays are now the bully on the block. They are non gay bigots . They are intolerable of non gays.
People have a right to fear Gays behavior as Gays disregard and trample others rights and free speech,
Hate speech laws now under consideration by a Gay advocating Democrat Congress protecting this abhorrent Gay Behavior will trample our first Amendment and everyones right to free spech.
”—In case you all think we don’t have to keep fighting!
“My personal rule (being an urbanite) is that if someone can’t diversify their social circle in areas like Brooklyn or DC, they are not people I want to know. So whatever, the show isn’t for me. A lot of them aren’t – I don’t watch Two and a Half Men, nor do I watch Rules of Engagement and that’s just fine. I’m not the core audience, and that was made abundantly clear.”—
“Lesley Arfin, apparently a writer on Girls, has tweeted: “What really bothered me most about Precious was that there was no representation of ME.” This is about as un-constructive and un-self-aware a response to this kind of hugely valid criticism as you can possibly get. As Jay Smooth put it to Lena Dunham on Twitter, “You need to come get your people.”—
“Dunham says in her profile in The New Yorker, “Let’s call a spade a spade—a lot of times when you are a vegetarian it is a just not very effective eating disorder.”—I DON’T WANT TO HATE YOU SO STOP SAYING STUPID SHIT.
Do extremely privileged white folks - even though who personally knew me for about five or six years - actually not think we exist here in New York, or do they just not care?
I think I’m unique in a way: I have actually made a concerted effort to have a pretty varied group of friends, so that any fiction I write includes my expansive worldview. “What I Know” includes people of most every ilk. Some better than others, yeah, but it’s certainly more than one or two.
And the reason I’m more up in arms about this than, say, Entourage being a dickish show about dicks is not to excuse that boorish show, but because, I mean, did she just forget about us? There weren’t that many minorities at our HS, and I’m sure not so many at her college, but we existed, and we continue to.
I guess the point is, there’s only room for so many shows to be praised to the high heavens each year.
And it’s not that hard. NBC does it. Did Dan Harmon grow up with middle-aged Christian black women? Did Mike Schur grow up with Indians from North Carolina?
No one wants tokenism. But if you make them real characters, we all get a share of the success. As such, we’ll just get more xeroxes of this model that leaves us out.
If only there was another Tyler Perry who didn’t write about aggressively heterosexual Christians with no white friends (seriously, my group of friends would not be allowed on TV).
“I’m going to watch ‘Girls’ and I will probably like it, but let’s all admit that there’s something seriously messed up about the fact that a show essentially about four privileged white girls is being heralded as some sort of cultural revelation. And I don’t think ‘Girls’ in itself is the issue, and I certainly hope they don’t start making all the periphery characters non-white to appease people like myself because half-assed tokenism is the worst, but I guess I’m just waiting, praying for the day, when I can watch a good show that the media likes about nonwhite women who are also smart and complicated”—something someone else said, and now I’m done,
Listening to a caller on the Savage Lovecast from a (seemingly) terrified young woman at age 17 who has a slightly older cousin who has been harassing her. This isn’t even the worst part: she’s brought it up with her family, and the implication is that she’s the one who will be blamed for bringing it on herself (she has a southern accent too so I’m not going to read tooooo much into that buuuut….).
So many people (yeah, mostly men, but I assume she has a mother too) really still believe, even in 2012, that a woman should keep her mouth shut if she feels she’s being disrespected or worse.
I have little else to say. It’s just depressing. Every time I hear about this I think I’m going to go back to my superhero story that’s sort of about this, but for now, I’ll write here.
I only hope she was listening today and she can make it through okay.
It’s true that, among the people from my high school who have become famous, all but one of them has had seeeeerious connections in the entertainment business. There is of course nepotism involved, but if my mom was an actor and I wanted to be one, I’m sure she’d pull strings.
I’m not that enthused about the work most of them are doing. But there’s of course a minor twinge of jealousy considering how little money I make.
Yet I do wonder if I’d come down as hard were they male. Am I being too critical because of their gender? I don’t think so, I don’t know, but I’m going to try and be fairer. I’ll give “Girls” (since you all know what I’m talking about) a real shot.
Negativity, be gone.
And besides: they’re doing the damn thing, regardless of the strings that were pulled. Smart, capable women should be valued, and that’s what they all are.
Someone I was “talking to” recently said it seemed like I was on a mission (re: dating) and she didn’t want to get in my way.
Interesting. I guess she’s right. I approach everything in a task-based fashion and I probably just can’t do that with this far more holistic process. I’m not holistic at all - but it’s worth considering for this, definitely. It could definitely stand to go better.
It’s not a direct correlation or cause and effect situation, because domestic violence often rises during poor economic times, but DV (and death) is up over the last two years and funding for this life-saving work is on the decline. No snark here: we should all donate time or money if we can. No one deserves to suffer through this and not have every chance to recover.
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“Apparently about half of the critics who saw 300, a movie whose message was mainly “manly man good, fancy man bad,” decided it was clearly and obviously about the Iraq War and/or relations with Iran.”—
“People usually respond by saying, “Sure, it made a lot of money, but …” But nothing. That’s the sole reason major studios make movies. You and all your friends hated it? Nobody cares. All the critics hated it? Nobody cares. Some people liked it enough to put down close to a billion dollars worldwide. I’m not saying it’s a good movie, or that the sequel has any artistic merit. I’m saying the studio would be stupid to not make one. They don’t make movies to get street cred with you, or so they can sleep at night with a clear artistic conscience.”—